What Do You Want?

What do you really, really want? You're probably very aware of what you DON'T want. But what DO you want?  Planning is essential for success. But, before you can plan, you need to identify what you want. What you want may fall into one or more of these general areas:

a.  Better relationships

b. Spiritual growth

c. Knowledge and mental clarity

d. Financial success

e. Health and fitness

f. Happiness

Score yourself from 1 - 10 in each of these six areas. A low score means that you're not doing well in this area. A high score is where you feel a lot of confidence and success. Write down the scores.

I want you to choose one goal in one category. In which category did you score the lowest? No doubt you have some problems in that area. If you didn't have problems in that area, what would your life be like? Stop and think about that question. Use your imagination to picture happiness for yourself in that area.

If happiness itself is your goal, then imagine yourself smiling, laughing, jumping for joy, dancing, singing, or skipping. Imagine yourself pumping your fists in the air over your head, tears of joy streaming down your face. That's happy.  And that's how specific I want you to see yourself.

What I'm trying to do here is to help you to focus on success. It's so easy to get discouraged or to blame circumstances or other people, but that just won't help you to get to where you want to be. And, you can't change other people.  So, take the time to decide which category you want to work on first. Here are some questions to ponder:

What would you dare to dream if you knew you absolutely couldn't fail?

What would you do you if you could wave a magic wand and have exactly what you want.

What will the eventual outcome be?

Imagine the possibilities that you could achieve if you dared to dream!

What would that look like? Jot it down. Flesh it out with details.

Rather than writing something vague like, "I want to be healthy," you will get better results by being specific. This is one client's goal: "I want to bring my cholesterol level down 20 points and my glucose level down to below 100. I can see my kids smiling at me because I can go hiking with them and they're proud of me."  See what I mean? Write it down in a paragraph.

We're laying the groundwork for changing your inner world.  And here's the exciting news: your outer world can't help but conform to your inner world! So changing your inner world will be an awesome journey. Promise!

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